MY EXPERIENCE WITH MICROBLADING

2/21/2019





Since the moment I learned how to do my eyebrows, I really feel my face changed. Eyebrows really frame the face and they can transform any look.

Microblading is a procedure that started gaining popularity the last few years. I was very hesitant to try it- especially after seeing my aunts with the crazy eyebrow tattoos. After hearing the experience of a few friend and really analyzing if it was for me: I decided to do it.

So here is my experience and some of the FAQ I got on my Instagram (@Nany).

Let's start with a very important question: WHERE DID I GOT MINE DONE?
I went to @EyebrowDoctor in Miami Beach. Find someone who you can trust with your eyes close. Check their portfolio, look for reviews online, all that!  Make sure the place is clean, that they are using high quality products, and trust your instinct. I truly believe that cheap places end up being "expensive", especially when it's something semi-permanent on your body. Pay a little extra to be 110% happy with the work.

When I got to the Eyebrow Doctor studio, we talked for a bit. She measure certain points of my face to make them symmetrical but she truly works wonders. She also applied a numbing cream and we got ready to start!

Then the second most common question was about the level of pain.
Well, I consider I have a high tolerance to pain and I did feel pain.  Comparing it to other cosmetic procedures like waxing, I do think a brazilian wax hurts more.  Let's say a 7/10. 
It's a bit uncomfortable because you can feel the skin breaking and it feels like little cat scratches. I have a few small tattoos and I think it does hurt more than a regular tattoo. 

The good news is that it's VERY fast. I wish  I would have timed it because I wanted it to be over FAST but at the same time I know it didn't take that long.

After leaving the studio, I felt it a bit swollen and that feeling when you have a paper cut.


Let's now talk about how to take care of them while they are healing.
The person that just did your eyebrows should give you clear instructions on how to take care of them. If she is not giving you the instructions in a written form, WRITE THEM. You should follow them very clearly to avoid any infection and make sure they come up like they should. Here are some of the instructions given TO ME, but remember every esthetician is different...LISTEN TO THE EXPERT!

- Don't get the eyebrows wet during the healing process (which is around 7 days minimum)- that means all day and all night.
- Don't put makeup on your eyebrows for a week. I would apply concealer, mascara, bronzer- and then I would remove it with carefully without touching the eyebrow area.
- Do not scrub or rub them.
- To help with the itchiness, apply an after-care ointment with a Q-tip.
- Avoid tanning or sun exposure + swimming pools for 14 days.

You might get tiny scabs...that's normal! Just keep an eye on them!

I think it's also important to mention that the first few days, the result looks darker than it would be. Don't get alarmed, it fades to a natural color! I personally didn't do them too dark because I love NOT-wearing makeup and I didn't want to look like a clown without it. So I still put a tiny bit of eyebrow powder when I'm doing a full-face of makeup.

Remember that this is not 100% permanent, it will fade with time.  

Which leads me to my next question: how long does it last? Do you need touch ups?
Like I said, it isn't a permanent procedure. You first touch-up is needed 4 weeks after the initial appointment, to make sure everything is as you want it to be!

After that, you will need touch-ups 6 months-1 year after your first procedure depending on skin type, medications, and sun exposure..

CONCLUSION: is it worth it?
Well, that's a personal one. For me it was. My eyebrows are more symmetrical, I like how it looks without makeup and I love how easy it is to follow the shape when adding a bit more eyebrow powder.

Many of my friends have done it and are obsessed with it!!



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Desde que aprendí a maquillarme las cejas, siento que mi cara cambio. Las cejas realmente son el marco de la cara y nos pueden transformar por completo.

Desde que el procedimiento de "microblading" o micropigmentación tomó fama, me llamó mucho la atención. Pero admito que no soy la primera en probar este tipo de cosas, me gusta escuchar las experiencias de mis amigas y analizar si realmente es para mí- en vez de ser algo que va a pasar de moda.

Así que les cuento mi experiencia y les respondo las preguntas que me dejaron en IG.


Primero lo primero, ¿a donde fui?
Fui a @EyeBrowDoctor en Miami Beach. Esto es lo MAS importante. Busca a una persona en la que confies ciegamente. Revisa su portafolio, busca que dice la gente de su trabajo online, que sea un lugar limpio, y que utilicen productos de la mejor calidad posible.  Recuerda que "lo barato sale caro", y más aún cuando se trata de algo SEMI-PERMANENTE. Es preferible que pagues un poquito más pero salgas 100% contenta con el trabajo que te hicieron.

Cuando llegué al estudio de Eyebrow Doctor, estuvimos hablando un rato. Me midió como ciertos puntos de la cara para que quedaran simétricamente naturales. Me aplicó un poquito de crema anestésica y empezamos. 

Con esto voy a la segunda pregunta frecuente:  ¿duele?
No les voy a mentir, a mi me dolió ( de la escala del uno al 10, diría que como un 7 en el departamento cosmético, porque después de las contracciones de parto, ningún dolor se compara). Se sienten como raspones y escuchas la piel pelándose. Yo tengo un par de tatuajes pequeños y si considero que duele más que un tatuaje. Es soportable, sí- pero molesta bastante. 

Lo bueno es que fue relativamente rápido. Me hubiese gustado contar el tiempo porque parte de mí estaba desesperada porque terminara,  y otra sabe que no se tardaron mucho. 


Después de salir del estudio, sentía como ardor en las cejas- como si tuviese una cortada de papel (de esas que molestan pero que sabes que no son nada).

Entonces hablemos de ¿Cómo es el cuidado?
La persona que te hace la micropigmentación debe darte instrucciones claras, preferiblemente por escrito de como debes cuidarlas para evitar cualquier tipo de infección y que por supuesto, queden perfectas. Les voy a comentar algunas de las sugerencias que me dieron a mí, pero si a ti te recomiendan algo distinto- por favor, ¡¡hazle caso al experto!!

- No mojes tus cejas por 7 días mínimo.   Nada de nada, que estén secas día y noche.
- No puedes maquillarte las cejas por una semana. Yo aplicaba corrector, mascara, y bronzer y lo removía con una toallita desmaquillarte- evitando tocar el area de las cejas.
-No te rasques ni te toques la zona de las cejas.
- Si sientes resequedad, aplica un poco de pomada con un hisopo. La EyebrowDoctor me dió la cremita que me podía poner.
- Evita el sol, las piscinas, y sudar por una semana mínimo.

Te van a salir como unas costras, o como si te estuvieses pelando- es normal, es tu piel cicatrizándose. 

También es importante acotar que los primeros día se ve más oscuro que el resultado final. Mi recomendación personal es que no se las hagan tan marcadas- yo todavía me maquillo las cejas un poco cuando estoy MUY maquillada- prefiero eso a sentirme con unas mega cejas cuando este con la cara lavada.

Mucha gente cree que es como un tatuaje 100% permanente pero no es así- se va desvaneciendo con el tiempo y requiere retoques para mantener su color- pero de retoques les cuento un poquito más abajo.

Por eso, hablemos de: ¿Cuánto dura? ¿Necesitas retoques?
Generalmente se debe hacer un retoque al mes de la primera consulta- para ver si se necesita algo más o si te quedaron exactamente como las querías.

Después de eso, como dije, el color se va desvaneciendo y puede que necesites retocarte cada 6 meses o cada año. Todo depende de tu tipo de piel,  cuanto tiempo pasas al sol, si estás tomando algún medicamento, etc.


Conclusión: ¿Vale la pena?
A mí me gustó mucho. Siento que ahora las cejas las tengo más simétricas, tengo como una guía para sacarmelas. Como les mencioné, creo que me las hice naturales para poder verme normal sin maquillaje- y eso me gusta.  

A todas mis amigas que se han hecho microblading,  les ha encantado el proceso y los resultados.



¿Estás pensando hacerte la micropigmentación? ¡Cuéntame tu experiencia si lo has hecho!



Baby Comfort with Hanes Baby

2/17/2019


Sponsored by Hanes Baby. All opinions are my own.


As an adult, when you are comfortable…you feel good, right? It’s that simple! That’s the reason why it’s always a priority for us to dress Nico in comfy clothes: comfy baby = happy baby!!

We were super excited to partner with Hanes Baby for its new line of babywear. It was designed with comfort in mind AND the basics are ADORABLE! You can mix and match them for any occasion. This line is proof that comfort doesn’t mean your little one can’t be stylish!





The Hanes Baby line features ways to make your life as a parent easier So let me tell you all about them!


Hanes Flexy allows clothing to fit your baby longer with a flexible fabric that stretches 4 ways. This provides value, and I personally get attached to his cute little clothes and I love knowing they’ll last longer! 

-Hanes Zippin allows parents to change baby easier and adds flexibility to adjust arm and leg cuffs as needed.  He is such an energetic baby and he moves a lot while changing, so the zipper pants make everything just faster and convenient + the zippers have a protective cover to keep them away from your baby’s skin!




Let me show you some of Nico’s (and our) favorite styles!


SLEEVELESS BODYSUIT (TANK)- 5 PACK


As soon as Nico wakes up, we change his diaper and get him out of his PJs. If you have been reading my Sleep Training stories, this helps him get in the mood of “the day began…I’m out of my Pjs”. We regularly put him in a short sleeve/sleeveless body suit since Miami is so warm. I also think he moves more freely in this tank and now that he is learning to crawl, it’s the perfect match!

I’m loving this tank onesie. The 5-pack has the cutest prints; from stars to this cute astronaut dog. It has expandable shoulders to get the tank over the baby head easily!




FLEECE-LINED ZIPPIN HOODIE AND PANT WITH LONG SLEEVE BODY SUIT- 3 PACK




Our getting ready routine is always a little crazy- like any new parent right?
I put him in the play pen, I do my makeup quickly (I have a 5 minute makeup routine down to the T!), then change him while still in my pjs. Then, put him in the stroller or bouncer while putting my clothes on and getting his diaper bag ready to go…and finally we are out the door!  

This adorable set comes with a zip pant, which makes it so much easier to put on Nico. Now that he is so agile, he wants to crawl away as soon as I lay him to dress him.  And well, I love the star print…give me anything with stars!!



KNIT PANT WITH ZIPPIN HOODIE- 2 PACK


This set of a knit hoodie + pant is super cute- and it was perfect for a sunset stroll with Gabe. Chiki, our pup, was getting groomed that afternoon, we totally missed him that day! 

Like I mentioned, it’s finally a bit cool in Miami. I was born in a tropical country and layering is always a bit tricky for me…imagine with Nico that he can’t tell me if he is too hot! But if you live in a seasonal city, this set also comes in a fleece option!





LONG SLEEVE POLO BODYSUIT - 3 PACK



A polo bodysuit? I’m sold! This style looks so adorable on little babies, but it’s super easy to get over their heads! The fabric truly moves with Nico. We have been using them alone at the house and then we’ve added some pants and socks for outings - he gets so many compliments with the polos!



MORE FROM HANES BABY
Look at this constellation onesie! I’m in love! I need one in my size!


And this short-sleeve polo with its matching pants!






And onesies with adorable messages! likes BABIES FOR A CHANGE.
PEACE. LOVE. BABY



Oh and I know many non-moms follow me but love reading about baby stuff, these make for the perfect gift for any new parent!. 


You can also check out the Hanes Baby app that just launched on the App Store and coming soon to Google Play . It has the cutest children’s stories with interactive features that allow babies to participate in story time!

TIPS FOR LONG-LASTING SLEEK HAIR + SPICE UP STRAIGHT HAIR in 2019

1/31/2019

Sponsored by Hot Tools. All opinions are my own.


If I have to describe my “go-to hairstyle for 2018”: it would be soft curls or waves. I definitely found my comfort zone...but I refuse to stay in it in this new year!!


MY HAIR RESOLUTION FOR 2019 is:
So my hair resolution for 2019 is to play with different hairstyles...it’s just as fun as fashion. I always say that your clothes should express your personality; but hey! your hair and makeup say just as much about you! Let’s not take ourselves that seriously in the beauty department! TIME TO HAVE FUN!


As a new mom, I try to take advantage of every minute I have. Regularly, I wash my hair once/twice per week at night while Nico sleeps and let it air-dry as much as possible. However, when I’m in a hurry, I use HOT TOOLS Black Gold Turbo Ionic Salon Dryer ($119.99 at Ulta) . Because of the Direct ION Technology, it dries my hair super fast and it reduces frizz (which living in Miami, we all need to reduce frizz!..but more on that below).





After my hair is dry, I regularly sit in front of the mirror with my lionesque hair and ask myself: am I in the mood of curly hair? straight hair?

Like I mentioned, during 2019. I curled my hair once a week. I’ve found that my curls last longer when I use a flat iron. The HOT TOOLS Black Gold 1 1/4" Digital Salon Flat Iron ($119.99 at Ulta) has round edges to curl hair easily! So of course my first instinct was to go for my comfort zone...and I stepped back and I said NO: let’s make sleek straight hair fun with some little twists!


Every time I wear my hair straight in Miami, with all the humidity, I get so many: “How isn’t it crazy frizzy in this weather?”
“How do you make it last?”





So let me share a few tips with you:

- Use hair products in the shower catered for your hair type, texture, and color (if your hair is bleached or dyed).
- I always forget to put a heat protectant, but it’s really important since we are always putting our hair in such high temperatures. 


- Just as we use high quality products, invest in high-quality hair tools. The Hot Tools Black Gold Collection. I love that the Ionic Salon Flat Iron has a Micro Shines Ceramic finish minimizes friction and reduces damage to your hair.
- When you are done curling or straightening, use your blow-dryer with the cool air setting in order to cool down your hair- that way it sets! If you go outside, and your hair is still hot: it can frizz or fall flat.

- I also don’t like using hair spray after styling my hair: I feel it wets my hair and hence messes with what I just did to it! I’ve noticed my curls or straight hair lasts longer when I don’t apply any product to it.
- For great sleek hair , I like dividing my hair in small sections in order to go over each section with the flat iron ONCE- instead of going over several times for a bigger piece (this decreases the damage since you go over it just one time). 




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But straight sleek hair doesn’t have to be boring...at all! Let’s add some accessories!!!!

1) DRESSY BOBBY PINS
I know there isn’t a big science behind this hairstyle but I’m loving this trend of embellished bobby pins or fun hair clips. It really adds a lot, and it takes 4 seconds!!! You can add them to a middle part hairstyle, a side part...add one or a few! Again, have fun with it!




2) BERET AND JASMINE PIG TAILS
This little jasmine pig tails are so easy to do! All you need is 6 clear elastic bands + hat and a beret.


- Do two pig tails. Secure with a clear elastic band.
- Secure two more elastic bands at lower on each pig tail and start opening the pig tail to create volume. You can tease for added volume but I didn’t want to mess with my sleek hair.
- Secure another two elastic bands on each side and repeat the process.
- Add a hat or a beret and you are ready to go! 




What’s your hair-resolution?
Hold me accountable if I don’t start playing with my hair more! 

6 Items to Help Your Little One Sleep Better

1/27/2019


Hi fellow mamas or awesome ladies who keep telling me that aren't moms but love reading mommy content!!  Thank you for all the amazing feedback on the two articles about SLEEP TRAINING. Check them out here:

Sleep Training: Part 1 MISTAKES
- Sleep Training: Part 2 The Program

I don't want to sound like a broken record, but remember: see me as a friend recommending what has worked for her. I'm not a sleep expert!!

Besides the techniques and the methodology, there are certain items that can help your little one sleep better. These are the things that have worked for us! This list is for a baby over 6 months that is already out of the swaddle and the dock-a-tot!



1) WHITE NOISE MACHINE.
So what is "white noise"? White noise is noise containing many frequencies with equal intensities.

There are many reasons why we love using a white noise machine.
- It works as a trigger. By now he knows that turning it on means that it is time to sleep. There are studies that state that it can also help the baby (and you) sleep longer and deeper.
- We live in a busy street of a big city, so it blocks out the street noise (sirens, cars honking...even fireworks that happen more often that you would imagine)
- We also live in an apartment on the smaller side with thin walls. So it also helps us live normally after he goes to sleep- meaning we can have friends over, cook, watch a movie, etc.

Just like I mentioned movement can create dependency; I know using white noise also worries parents in the long-term. It's a personal decision. If you live in a quiet house,  maybe you don't need it!

What about "naps on the go"? We downloaded a white noise app that helps when we are not at home.
What about traveling? Our white noise machine is not that big, and we have taken it with us to Mexico, California, and New York. It really helped us, especially in NYC!!

The one we have has 4 white noise options and 4 lullaby options, a light, and it's shaped as an owl (it's adorable and it blends with the decor). But here are some options:



2) A LOVEY/BLANKET
The term "lovey" is used to define any comfort object a baby brings to bed. The most common ones are teddy bears or blankets - ours is a mixed of the two! It has the head of a plush animal but it's like a little blanket.

Ask your pediatrician when you can introduce a lovey. Some say it is okay at 4 months, while other prefer you to wait until 9 months or when you baby is able to move an object away from his/her face.

The first day, I put the lovey inside my bra for a few hours so it would take my smell (and remind him of me!). Then, at the night feeding, I put it between us and rub his face with it- so there is an association of comfort and safety.   Now he LOVES his lovey, he grabs it before going in his crib and rubs it while falling asleep (it's adorable).

I got his lovey on Etsy and I personalized it with his name on it.



3) BLACKOUT SHADES
Yes, yes! You want your baby to be able to nap everywhere. But especially during "Nap training", it's super important to make sure his/her little room is as dark as possible. Scientifically, humans sleep better when it's dark...as simple as that!

Remember that everything they see is a distraction.  Our room isn't that dark, but we put a few cardboards around the curtains to make it darker.



4) BABY MONITOR
Ok, this one is more for you than for the baby..but it gives you peace of mind! Sometimes, babies cry completely asleep! They are connecting sleep cycles and if you run quickly to the room, you are only waking them up!

Now that Nico is sitting up by himself. I also like monitoring if he is sitting up or laying down. We call it NICO.TV , because sometimes we look at it more than we should!

I have a few friends that have the AngelCare or the Owlet- these two also measure heartbeat/oxygen levels among other things. I don't find it necessary , but whatever gives YOU peace of mind while they sleep is OKAY!




5) COZY ZIPPER ONESIES
Many experts worldwide recommend not having anything inside the crib to avoid the risk of SIDS. But you want your baby to be cozy. I personally love zipper onesies- because you can change them quickly in the middle of the night in case of any poopy emergency.




6) OVERNIGHT DIAPERS
This is such an important item!!! The first night of "sleep training", Nico woke up completely soaked in pee. We were using Pampers Pure diapers- which we have been using since day one and we love them but they are not meant to be used for that long!  We headed to Target, and the only diaper brand that had Nico's size was Honest. We got it, and OMG they did not work AT ALL. He woke up soaked on night 2 again.

After this, I asked the "Taking Cara Babies" group, what brand they recommended and here are the tips I got:
- After you drop the night feedings, the diapers don't get SO FULL overnight. I found out this to be TRUE!
- The brand that was mentioned the most was Pampers Overnight. It's the one we got afterwards and it's amazing! We have't had any leakage- even after 12 hours.
- You can also double up- put two diapers just in case. But I don't think that's very comfortable for them.
- SIZE UP in the overnight diapers. Nico is a size 3 right now, so we get the Pampers Overnight size 4.




Let me know if there is anything you would add to this little list!!

Our Sleep Training Experience- Part 2: The Program

1/15/2019

We did lower the crib to the lowest option after this pic.


Before starting this post, I want to clarify something about my previous post because I never want to come off as ungrateful or that I'm not enjoying motherhood.  I understand I was very lucky that he slept pretty well until the regression. Later on, I absolutely loved co-sleeping with my baby and snuggling him while he slept but I also understood that it wasn't healthy for him or for us. They need that sleep skill, it's really important- and we still get tons of snuggles every day!

Now that I've said that. Let's continue where we left off. Check out PART ONE HERE.

The first thing we did was watch the online course of Taking Cara Babies, which also comes with a booklet and access to a Facebook group with tons of extra information that's not necessarily on the course. It took us about three days to watch the whole thing. I watched it all with my husband because it's really important for your partner to understand what you are doing. Also, during those long nights, you need someone to support your decision and remind you that you are doing the best for your baby.

The Taking Cara Babies site offers a variety of courses depending on your babies' age. Since Nico was almost 7 months old when we decided to start, I purchased the " 5-24 months Class"; but there is also one for newborns, and an e-book for 3-4 months.

So yes, our experience is from the "5-24 months Class" and I have no references or idea of what is mentioned on the other classes, but I have a few friends who took their newborn class and they LOVED IT. So please remember that when reading my review. If you baby is younger than 5 months, this post might not be for you.

The program is not that affordable- it's over $200. But putting that into perspective, that's probably less of what a sleep specialist would charge would charge for a local consultation. It can also include one or two phone consultation  with someone from the Taking Cara Babies team.  I'm also really active on the Facebook group; whenever I have a question, tons of moms come to the rescue.

As you can imagine, there is a lot of information in that course that would take 100 posts- hence why I'm leaving that to the experts but since this is more of a review/our experience, I want to share our key points and things that really change our perception and/or helped us. These are little changes you can implement, but if you want to follow the plan from A-to-Z, please head to Taking Cara Babies.


The Importance of a Sleep Routine
A few months ago, I wrote about a post on "How to Bathe Your Newborn" and I'm mentioning it because bath time became part of our sleep routine.  Think about it. Every night, before going to sleep, you do a series of things that get you in the mood for sleeping...it's the same for them. He eats solids 30 min before his bath. We do bath time at night because Nico relaxes in his little tub. Then we proceed to do a little massage. I get him ready in cozy Pjs. We read a book and then he takes his last bootle of the night.  After that we hug and cuddle, and we turn on the white noise machine. I put him in the crib, say Good-Night, and I'm out the door until the next morning (if you have been following me for a while, you know we live in a one-bedroom apartment...so YES, we have been sleeping in the living room, no shame! We would be a distraction in case he wake sup during the night so we prefer that everrryone sleeps)

Doing the same thing every night gives the signal to your baby that sleep is approaching- he knows exactly what will happen.

It's very important to put your baby in the crib AWAKE. If you put your baby asleep, he will wake up not understanding how we got in the crib- and of course, cry! This means, not letting fall asleep while having their bottle or on the boob- this gives them a little shot of energy that in the end could cause them to fall asleep.


If you put your baby down asleep, he or she will need you to go back to sleep if she/he wakes up in the middle of the night. This is SUPER important because the whole idea of "sleep training" is teaching them to go to sleep by themselves.

A Little Parenthesis: you should always start with night training and when your baby is sleeping through the night, move on to nap training.  This means, you can keep rocking and swinging your baby for naps while doing this program. This will not confuse them because night-sleep and naps happen in different parts of the brain.  We actually started nap-training a few days ago, after feeling he got night-time.


Crying will happen.
No mom wants to see their baby cry; but remember they are not crying because they are hungry or because they need a diaper change or are in trouble...they are crying because they are confused!

Nico spent over 6 months being rocked several times a day- imagine being used to something all your life and then everything changes.  I knew he ate well the whole day (yes, it is very important to make sure your baby is having all the calories he needs during the day to not need any night feeding). I knew he was not sick or in pain. I think that when you understand this point, the crying doesn't hurt as much.


So, is this a cry-it-out program?
No, it is not!

Your baby should not feel abandoned. So the idea is to make them sure you are still there for him. After you put him in the crib, you "let him" cry (let's call it "let him figure it out") for 5 minutes. Then you go in the room (don't hold him!!) and just tell him he is okay, that it is time to go to sleep that you are outside if he needs anything. Then wait another 10 minutes, and repeat. Then you should go in every 15 minutes.

We personally waited a bit more in between "pop-ins" because he would get SO SO SO upset every time he saw us.  The crying would increase instead of decreasing. Also, pay close attention to the intensity of the crying, don't go in the room if you feel your baby is starting to calm down.  It's amazing to see how each day the crying starts decreasing. Because again, they are figuring out and understanding what is happening.

The first few nights can be rough because the baby can wake up confused in between sleep cycles; you just do the same thing every time he wakes up: 5 min, 10 min, and every 15 minutes. Do this until you have reached your desired wake time. They recommend 11-12 hours.

The online course comes with a daily sheet where you write every thing down. It is super useful because you can see and compare how your baby did every night. It puts everything objectively and you'll see that he or she is totally getting it. In that piece of paper I also started tracking his naps, how much time he was spending awake in between naps, how much he ate, etc. That way I was 100% sure that he was eating the right amount and getting his day sleep in.

Nico was so used to the rocking that I was nervous but that first night it only took 30 minutes for him to fall asleep and woke up 3 times during the night (but very short windows); and he passed our wake goal! We actually had to go in the room to wake him up! But every baby is different, and every night is different (especially during the training), I've read some stories on the Facebook group where the baby had a hard time on Night 8-9 after a week of perfect sleeping. The important thing is to stay consistent. If you pick your baby after 45 minutes of crying, you are only telling him that EVENTUALLY you will pick up. Stay strong!!


Understanding Awake Time
Ok remember that book I mentioned "12 hours by 12 weeks", I remember their schedule was super strict- feeding every 4 hours a minimum of 6 oz and no sleeping between the last 2 feedings. This meant that if your baby goes to sleep at 7pm, he shouldn't sleep any more after 3pm.  I found this absolutely crazy for a 3 month baby. 

So I'm going to link this article to the Taking Cara Babies site where you can read more about nap schedules and how much awake time your baby needs according to his/her age. There is a lot of info on their blog that you should definitely check out.


When we started at 6.5 months, Nico needed 3 naps a day and his wake windows were of about 2-3 hours! This made more sense that the book I just mentioned, you don't want an overtired baby! The more/better they sleep, the more/better they WILL sleep.  Now that he is 8 months, we have dropped one nap and we are doing 2 naps a day with wake windows of 3-4 hours. 


I also want to mention something because everyone would tell us when we started training Nico:

"oh but the more tired he is, the better he will sleep" "why 7pm, put him down at 9pm and he will sleep longer". This is simply not true.  You can find a lot of scientific data of what I'm going to say: the best time for a baby to go to sleep is between 7-8pm!So yes, specially during the 14 days of training you'll have to be more often in your house to BE CONSISTENT! Also, remember that sleep attracts sleep- and it's true even as an adult: the more I used to nap, the more I wanted to sleep!



Weaning Night Feedings
This is a BIG topic! I think that every set of parent struggling with their baby's sleep habits worries about the night feedings that are about to be dropped!

Nico would have a full 6oz bottle at 3-4am every night. So the idea is to slowly decrease the ounces by 1oz per day (and make sure to increase that amount during the day). This meant that on day 1 of sleep training he had 5 oz instead; on day 2, he had 4 oz; and on day 3, he had 3 oz. After that we stopped the dream feeding because I felt terrible waking him up for just 2-1oz.  


If your baby is breastfeeding, follow the same exact principles but instead of decreasing the ounces, think of it as in minutes or time on the boob.



Since I just mentioned it:

What is a dream feeding?
Well, it's pretty obvious from the wording but it means feeding your baby while he is still asleep. Take him out of the crib with the lights off, feed him and put him back inside. You do this so you don't confuse your baby. If you wait until he wakes up crying in the middle of the night and you take him out to feed him, you are telling your little one that "crying sometimes works" and they will continue to cry just to see if it will work.

By night 5-6 your baby should be able to go all night without a feeding. And I know it can be hard if they wake up in the middle of the night crying, but you have to trust your gut and reassure yourself that he or she is eating enough through the day. YOU ARE NOT STARVING YOUR BABY!


Early Morning Wakings
This has been probably the hardest part from the course and we are still doing little adjustments to improve his "Early Morning Wakings". So what is this? A baby waking up before his GOAL WAKE TIME- regularly between 4-6am.  It happens because their sleep drive is low and they might have a harder time falling back asleep. Read more about it HERE.

Nico had been doing great with EMW until he got sick on our trip to North Carolina. He had a stomach virus and couldn't hold any food or milk down for several days.  This means, forget the program and hold your baby all night if he needs to! As soon as he got better and we were in our home, we started the program again but he started waking up around 4:30am- and his goal wake time is 6am.  If this happens, you can do pop-ins...but I think in general, that only wakes them up even more. So we would let him cry until his 6am- which by the way, it wasn't crazy screaming...it was mostly fussing and he would fall asleep intermittently.

And here comes another important point, never take him out of the crib while they are crying. Wait for your baby to calm down and come to the room super excited like you didn't notice he was crying before. I turn all the lights, sing to him, and give him so many kisses....btw, I'm not a morning person- but I have to pretend to be one for him!




We are currently NAP TRAINING; like I mention, it's better if you do night training first and then focus on naps. So let's talk about NAPS in a week or two.

I'm not saying every night is perfect. Like any skill, he is still improving and learning. But I'm SO PROUD OF HIM! You have no idea how much I miss holding him in my arms and see his sweet face, but I know that long-term, this was something really important we needed to do!



WOAH that was a lot of information. Please let me know if you have any questions.
The next article would be about 10 items to get to improve the sleep of your little one and if I get a lot of fun questions...I'll do a Q&A!






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Antes de empezar este artículo quiero empezar con una aclaratoria porque nunca quiero que piensen que no estoy disfrutando la maternidad. También sé que soy muy afortunada de que Nico duermiese bien los primeros meses. Y que también amaba pero AMABA dormir con él pero entendí que el necesitaba esa habilidad y que era lo más saludable para toda la familia.

Ok sigamos. Pueden leer la primera parte haciendo click acá.

Lo primero que hice fue ver el curso por Internet de Taking Cara Babies- que también viene con un ebook y acceso a un grupo privado en Facebook donde hay MUCHISIMA información que no sale en el curso. Nos tardamos alrededor de 3 días viendo absolutamente todo. Es super importante incluir a tu pareja o a algún familiar en el proceso, para que te apoyen y entiendan todo lo que estás haciendo.

La página de Taking Cara Babies ofrece varios cursos dependiendo de la edad de tu bebé. En ese momento Nico tenía 6 meses y medio, así que nosotros compramos la clase de 5-24 meses. También hay una para recién nacidos y otra para bebés de 3-4 meses.

Por esto, todo lo que les cuento es de nuestra experiencia con el curso de 5-24 meses. Personalmente, no tengo idea que dicen en las otras clases pero tengo un par de amigas que hicieron la de recién nacido y están fascinadas.  Recuerden eso mientras leen esta reseña/experiencia. Si tu bebé tiene menos de 5 meses, este post no es para ti todavía. Y sé que aunque la teoría es la misma para un bebé de año y medio, puede que la experiencia sea muy distinta.

Este curso no es económico- cuesta más de $200. Pero yo tomé en cuenta que un especialista en esta area cobra el doble de eso por una consulta. Este curso también incluye una o dos llamadas (tu escoges ya que sube el precio si son dos, por supuesto) con alguien del equipo de Cara. A mi me gusta participar bastante en el grupo de Facebook y muchas mamás me han ayudado cuando tengo cualquier pregunta o duda.

Como se pueden imaginar, si nos tomó 3 días en ver todo, pudiese escribir 100 posts al respecto. Por lo que se lo dejo a los expertos y comparto con ustedes una pequeña reseña con ciertos puntos claves importantes que pueden ayudarte de alguna manera. Si quieren seguir este programa de la A a la Z, pasen por TakingCaraBabies. com.

La importancia de tener una rutina todas las noches:
Velo de esta manera: cada noche, antes de dormirte, probablemente haces una serie de cosas que le dicen a tu cuerpo "ok estoy cansada"- y es exactamente lo mismo para estos mini humanitos. Hace varios meses, les compartí un post de "¿Cómo bañar a un recién nacido?" y menciono la hora del baño porque se ha convertido en una parte importante de nuestra rutina. Antes de bañarlo, le doy de comer sólidos (BLW), lo bañamos y se relaja muchísimo en su bañerita. Seguimos con un masaje. Le ponemos unas pijamas cómodas. Leemos un libro. Se toma su último tetero o biberón. Prendemos la máquina de "sonido blanco" (que ayuda a bloquear cualquier sonido de nosotros en la casa o de la calle ya que vivimos en una calle principal). Le doy muchos besitos, las buenas noches y lo acuesto en su cuna ¡y no lo veo hasta la mañana siguiente! (si llevan tiempo siguiéndome saben que vivimos en un apartamento pequeño de una sola habitación. Por lo que, SI, hemos estado durmiendo en la sala para no distraerlo o despertarlo).

Hacer lo mismo todas las noches le da una señal a tu bebe que la hora de dormir se acerca y que no hay porque llorar. El sabe exactamente lo que va a pasar.

Es súper importante acostar a tu bebé en su cuna DESPIERTO. Si lo acuestas dormido,  apenas se despierte no va entender como llegó ahí (imagina que tu te duermes en tu cuarto y te despiertas en el cuarto del vecino, tu también te despertaras gritando). Esto significa no dejar que se duerma en el tetero o en la teta- si se duermen, es como un shot de energía y les va a costar dormirse unos minutos después.

También si lo acuestas dormido, te va a volver a necesitar en cualquier momento que se despierte en la noche. ES MUY IMPORTANTE porque el punto del "entrenamiento de sueño" es darles esa habilidad de dormir solitos.

Un pequeño paréntesis:  es recomendado empezar el training con la noche y luego continuar con las siestas. Esto significa que aunque estés enseñándole a dormir solo de noche, puedes mecerlo o hacer lo que hacías antes durante las siestas. No te preocupes que las siestas y dormir están relacionadas en el cerebro. Nosotros empezamos con las siestas hace unos 10 días;  cuando me sienta más cómoda con el tema de las siestas, les contaré bien.



El llanto es inevitable.
No hay mamá en este mundo que quiera ver a su bebé llorar. Tienes que recordar que no están llorando por hambre ni por que necesitan un cambio de pañal. Están llorando porque están confundidos.

Nico estuvo más de 6 meses siendo consentido y durmiéndose mientras lo mecíamos. Imagina que estás acostumbrado a algo toda tu vida y de la nada cambia. Siempre me aseguro que coma bien durante todo el día (obviamente es importante que consuma todas las calorías que necesita para no necesitar leche en la noche). Estoy pendiente que no esté enfermo o incómodo. Creo que cuando entendemos que es solo por "confusión", el llanto duele pero no TANTO.

Ajá,  ¿entonces en este programa se les deja llorar hasta que no puedan más?
¡NO! Tu bebé en ningún momento debería sentir que lo abandonaste.

La idea es asegurarles que estás ahí para él. Si al ponerlo en la cuna, empieza a llorar: espera 5 minutos y entras. Pero NO LO CARGUES! Solo toca su espalda y dile que todo está bien, que se duerma y que siempre vas a estar ahí para él/ella.  Dilo con seguridad y con calma, ellos entienden toda la energía y si estás llorando porque él esta llorando, ¡mejor que entre tu esposo!

Si sigue llorando, entras luego a los 10 minutos y haces exactamente lo mismo. Y si continua llorando, ahora vas a entrar cada 15 min.  Presta MUCHA atención al llanto, velo como una montaña rusa: puede que suba o baje, si está bajando o si se calma por al menos un ratito: empieza a contar otra vez los 15 minutos. Es increíble ver como cada noche la cantidad de llanto va bajado y como empiezan a entender lo que está pasando.

Las primeras noches pueden ser difíciles porque tu bebé probablemente se despierte entre ciclos. Y así sean las 2am, vas a hacer lo mismo: entras a los 5 min, luego 10 y después cada 15. Haz esto hasta que sea hora de despertarse. Lo recomendado son 11-12 horas.

Este curso viene con unas páginas donde anotas absolutamente todo durante los 14 días del entrenamiento oficial: cuantas veces se despertó, por cuanto tiempo lloró, cuando entraste, etc. Es muy útil porque puedes comparar objetivamente cada noche y entender lo bien que van. Yo por mi cuenta, también quise anotar sus siestas, cuando tiempo estaba despierto al día, cuanto comía, etc. Así me sentía más segura del proceso.

Nico estaba tan acostumbrado a dormirse mientras los mecíamos que no tienen idea lo nerviosa que estaba. Pero esa primera noche fue mejor de lo que esperabamos; se durmió a los 30 minutos y solo se despertó 3 veces por un par de minuticos en toda la noche. ¡Y lo mejor es que durmió más de lo esperado y tuvimos que despertarlo!! Tuvimos noches difíciles y noches como si nada. Pero cada bebé es diferente, cada noche puede ser diferente. Por ejemplo, en el grupo de Facebook, hay mamás que dicen que la noche 6-7 es super difícil porque dejaron de darle leche  (abajo les cuento más de como ir bajando poco a poco la cantidad de leche), y el bebé más que la leche, lo que quiere es ese cariño a media noche.

Lo más importante este proceso es ser CONSTANTE. Si cargas a tu bebé después de 90 minutos llorando, le estás diciendo que si lloran por todo ese tiempo, lo vas a cargar. ¡¡Así que mucha paciencia y fortaleza!!!



Sobre el tiempo que pasa despierto durante el día.
Ok se acuerdan ese libro que les mencioné de "12 horas en 12 semanas". Me acuerdo que la rutina del libro era extremadamente estricta: comidas cada 4 horas (de un mínimo de 6 onzas)- que a esa edad Nico jamás hubiese comido 6 onzas en una sentada. Y debía estar despierto 4 horas antes de acostarse a dormir oficialmente. Eso significa que si acuestas a tu bebé a las 7pm; no podía dormir más después de las 3pm. Esto a los 3 meses, me parecía una locura.

Aquí les dejo un enlace del blog de Taking Cara Babies donde pueden ver en detalle sobre las siestas, sobre cuanto tiempo debe dormir un bebé durante el día y cuanto tiempo debe estar despierto entre "dormidas". Hay mucha información en el blog de ellos que pueden ver sin comprar el programa, y es muy útil.

Cuando empezamos, Nico tenía 6 meses y medio, y necesitaba 3 siestas al día (dos largas y una cortita a eso de las 3-4pm, intentábamos que fuese en el coche o de paseo en el carro). El debía estar despierto 2-3 horas entre siestas/hora de dormir. Esto para mí, tiene mucho más sentido que las 4 horas a un bebé de 3 meses.  Ahora que Nico tiene 8 meses, duerme dos siestas y está despierto 3-4 horas entre siestas/hora de dormir.

También quiero mencionar algo que estoy segura que vas a oír de parte de tu familia:
"Pero acuéstalo más tarde, así duerme más"  Y esto es MENTIRA. Hay muchos estudios pero piensa en tu caso como adulto. Yo por ejemplo, entre más duermo, más sueño me da...así mismito son ellos! También la mejor hora para acostarlos es entre las 7-8pm . Lo que significa que es super importante ser constante al menos por un mes para que entiendan la rutina.  Después puedes ser más flexible, pero debes ser muy constante al principio.

¿Cómo eliminar las tomadas de leche en la noche?
Creo que este tema es super importante y uno de los que más les preocupa a cualquier papá cuando se habla de que un bebé duerma toda la noche sin comida entre medio ni nada.

Antes de empezar este programa, Nico se tomaba un tetero de 6 onzas a las 3-4am. Así que la idea es bajar la cantidad de leche que le das cada noche (y por supuesto, incrementar eso que le bajaste durante el día). La primera noche, le dimos 5 onzas; la segunda noche, 4; la tercera, 3.  Después de eso dejamos de darle porque me daba dolor despertarlo para darle tan poquita leche. Eso funcionó para nosotros, pero tu conoces a tu bebé mejor que nadie.

Si tu amamantas a tu bebé, velo en minutos en vez de onzas. Cada día ve bajando la cantidad de minutos que pasa en la teta.

IMPORTANTE: no vas a esperar que tu bebé se despierte gritando para darle su leche en el medio de la noche. Vas a hacer lo que llaman "dream feeding" o comida soñando. Como dice su nombre, vas a sacar a tu bebé de la cuna dormidito, le das de comer con las luces apagadas, y lo pones en la cuna otra vez como si nada hubiese pasado. Esto es para no confundir a tu bebé. Si le das de comer cuando llore, le estás dando a entender que "algunas veces le das de comer cuando llora" y no queremos que asocie el llanto con atención.



Cuando tu bebé se despierta antes de tiempo:
Esto ha sido lo más difícil para nosotros y seguimos haciendo pequeños ajustes para deje de despertarse entre las 4-6am al 100%. Cuando se despiertan a estas horas, es porque ya están descansados y les cuesta mucho volverse a dormir. También les dejo un artículo del blog de Taking Cara Babies por ACA.

A Nico le iba muy bien despertándose a la hora deseada (es decir 6am para nosotros), hasta que se enfermo en nuestro viaje a Carolina del Norte. Le dió un virus en el estómago muy fuerte y estuvo vomitando por varios días. Si tu bebé se enferma en cualquier momento, así sea en pleno "entrenamiento", usted agarra a su muchacho y le da todo el amor y atención que necesite. Cuando Nico ya se sentía bien, comenzamos el programa otra vez. Y ahí se nos empezó a despertar a las 4:30am. Puedes hacer lo mismo de entrar cada 5-10-15 minutos PERO yo siento que eso solo los despierta más. Nosotros lo dejamos llorar hasta su hora- pero nunca fue un llanto desesperado, se dormía y se volvía a despertar cada 5-10 minutos.


Y aquí viene otro punto importante: cuando se despierte, no lo saques de la cuna si está llorando. Espera a que esté calladito para entrar al cuarto. Yo entro como si ni me hubiese dado cuenta que estaba llorando, le canto o bailo, prendo las luces, y le doy MIL besitos * que conste que yo no soy una persona mañanera o madrugadora, pero tengo que serlo para él*.

Como les mencioné, estamos con el tema de las siestas.  Pronto les contaré más de eso, tal vez en una o dos semanas.

No digo que todas las noches son perfectas- pero son mucho mejores, está durmiendo mejor, pasa el día más feliz porque durmió bien. Y sé que poco a poco va a seguir mejorando. Me siento super orgullosa a pesar de que no tienen idea como lo extraño todas las noches. Sé que esto es 100% por su bienestar.

Por favor, dejen sus preguntas o dudas. Así puedo hacer un artículo de Preguntas & Respuestas.
También les voy a dejar un artículo con 10 items para ayudarlo a dormir mejor. 



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